Compassion
The closest a person feels is with his/her mother. Child spends a lot of time with the mother and they know each other in more detail than in any other relationship. Same goes with siblings.
The special comfort we feel with college and school mates is also due to their knowing more about us than the front we put up at that moment.
That is why husband/wife relationship also special. The spouses know things about each other which no other relation knows.
Relationship building in business, tricks taught in How to Make Friends all rely on getting to know the personality of the person other than focussing on just the context in which we interact.
In party talk, one tends to enquire about the guests, their work, working times, children, parents, brothers, sisters and other personal details. When you party with a client, boss or co-worker you are coming out of the strictly work mode and get to know about the person more.
In a life or in a railway journey we are forced into closer positions with strangers. People handle it in different manner. In a lift you can smile at your co-passengers and talk about weather, compliment a little girl about her hairstyle, and a big girl about her nice dress so on.
In railway journey some people have the knack of striking up conversation and building good relationships which last till the destination.
The key to all this is understanding that every human being is a complex personality with atleast four dimensions. Instead of only focussing on the 3 dimensions present at this moment, go into the fourth dimension (time) and empathize with his/her past (immediate as well as distant) and possible future.
The special comfort we feel with college and school mates is also due to their knowing more about us than the front we put up at that moment.
That is why husband/wife relationship also special. The spouses know things about each other which no other relation knows.
Relationship building in business, tricks taught in How to Make Friends all rely on getting to know the personality of the person other than focussing on just the context in which we interact.
In party talk, one tends to enquire about the guests, their work, working times, children, parents, brothers, sisters and other personal details. When you party with a client, boss or co-worker you are coming out of the strictly work mode and get to know about the person more.
In a life or in a railway journey we are forced into closer positions with strangers. People handle it in different manner. In a lift you can smile at your co-passengers and talk about weather, compliment a little girl about her hairstyle, and a big girl about her nice dress so on.
In railway journey some people have the knack of striking up conversation and building good relationships which last till the destination.
The key to all this is understanding that every human being is a complex personality with atleast four dimensions. Instead of only focussing on the 3 dimensions present at this moment, go into the fourth dimension (time) and empathize with his/her past (immediate as well as distant) and possible future.
posted by மா சிவகுமார் at Friday, February 24, 2006
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